Why the Name “Blessed Reject”?

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Is it truly blessed to be rejected? Isn’t it a bit extreme to embrace the name ‘Reject’?

Isn’t that wallowing in my woes? Making a bigger deal of things than I should? How can rejection be a blessing?

Truth is, I have struggled my whole life with feeling like an outcast. Feeling rejected. Sure some were from childhood difficulties, some from the teen years – but mostly a case of how I perceived myself!

Being an intense, strong, sharp-edged, straight-shooting, forthright introvert is a unique combination. See my about me page for more on my quirky personality!

Doing Life Scared

I am currently enrolled in Ruth Soukop’s Do it Scared Community and after taking her personality archetypes quiz, it was no surprise that my results showed me to be 89% outcast in my struggles. The other archetypes are procrastinator, rule-follower, self-doubter, people-pleaser, pessimist and excuse-maker.

Ruth’s book Do it Scared is an inspiring look at the things deep in our personalities that can keep us from moving forward with our lives and dreams, goals and plans.

Choosing to do life scared is an empowering and freeing concept. After a devastating rejection of myself and my family, God took me on a journey. A journey from pain and grief to processing and moving on, to fully living – better than ever.

A Path Emerges

It took my psyche over a year to truly recover from this blow. A blow that seemed like a self-fulfilling prophecy. Afterall I have spent most of my life feeling unaccepted.

During this time of recovery, I grew and learned and continue to grow and learn. During prayer, I felt God gently impressing upon me that I am a blessed reject. This filled my soul with His shalom. Indeed, He is correct. I am a blessed reject.

Over time, since facing severe rejection (we like to refer to it as our shunning), I feel like I have become an expert on rejection what it is, how to handle it and the various aspects of it. I’ve read and studied the subject in an academic manner. I knew I had so needed and desired someone out there to show me how to keep living, how to keep breathing through the pain. And that was when I feel that God showed me, I could be that person for you.

I can use my pain and recovery to help others not feel alone, not be alone. To show that what you are feeling, how you may be responding is normal. And okay. And you will survive and you will thrive again, better than ever.

Blessed to be Rejected

Because being rejected makes us so much more than a reject! It really and truly is a blessing. A painful one, for sure, but so worth it in the larger scheme of life.

Privileged and blessed that my Creator loves me so much that He holds me and guides me through my pain.

Honored and blessed that He loves me so much He insists I keep changing and growing and maturing to become more like Him – such a long, long way to go, yet He doesn’t give up.

I am happy to get my priorities right. To have a new life, open to Him and where He will lead us. I was pretty sure I was where I was supposed to be, ignored His still small voice, or rather, rationalized it away. Thought the red flags were just part of life and being in fellowship with other humans.

He really did have to do a big shakeup to get us to see we were not where He wanted us to be. And how good and blessed is it that He loves us that much?

And that is how He wants to love you too. Enough to let you suffer from rejection. Enough so He can bless you.

And let me tell you from experience, being a Blessed Reject is a wonderful life purpose. Embrace it and be blessed.

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