How to stop obsessive thinking? If you are like me and go through seasons where your brain gets stuck in obsessive thought patterns, you know the deep frustration.
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You may also be aware of the anxiety this obsessive thinking causes and even the link with depression. We need to be able to break the cycle and stop feeling like we have no control over our brains!
There is help to get rid of obsessive thought patterns, but it takes work to kick the uncontrolled ruminating to the curb.
Take Every Thought Captive
If you are a Bible believer, you know that the Bible supports and commands us to be in charge of our thoughts. Yet, when plagued with obsessive thinking it seems impossible to accomplish.
To break the cycle or pattern of redundant thinking takes both work and prayer. Barring a miracle from God, it won’t happen overnight. But! With consistency in applying techniques, you will find freedom and be able to take every thought captive.
How to Know if You are Dealing with Obsessive Thoughts?
Bottom line? If your thoughts are bothering you if you are sick and tired of thinking about ‘it,” if you feel you can’t stop the thoughts (but you want to). For me, my brain seems to obsess over situations that have hurt me or confused me deeply.
Also, if your thoughts have bitterness, even a tinge, you may be into obsessive thinking.
Take, for instance, someone betraying you; you no longer trust them. That’s just common sense. But as long as there is some bitterness in your heart and mind towards your betrayer, you have some work on your thoughts to do.
“In order to rid yourself of them, you must make the choice to leave them behind and stop trying to lead them to a conclusion.”Love Wide Open, Circular Thinking and Obsessive Thoughts
Freedom from obsessive thinking and toxic bitterness will result in liberty to love (God’s love flowing through you) with joy and peace; all the while maintaining healthy boundaries.
How Big is Your God? And Can You Trust Him?
Often when we are suffering from obsessive thoughts we are hurt, sad, and probably dealing with some anger or bitterness. A good place to start to begin taking every thought captive is by asking yourself the above questions.
You may even need to ask these questions obsessively! If you are a Bible believer, you know your God is bigger than the trauma and pain you are currently enduring. Remind yourself of this frequently.
Do you trust Him? Part of recovery from recurring thoughts is reaching a place of faith and trust that is bigger and stronger than our emotional and spiritual pain.
If Your Thoughts are Revolving Around Betrayal or Rejection…
Then your goal should be to love your offender(s) without judgment while maintaining healthy boundaries. You can love them without putting yourself at risk for further abuse, bullying, or rejection.
Some of the obsessive thinking may revolve around confusion or the unfairness of your situation. You may be dealing with a fear of being further hurt. You may have some righteous indignation going and have a strong desire to show them their sin and pettiness, etc.
“Rumination can be a problem because it rarely offers new insights or solutions on how to handle a situation. Instead it emotionally hijacks us and intensifies our negative feelings.”The EveryGirl, 5 Tips to Stop Obsessive Thinking
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Instead, we need to choose to trust in our Creator. Over and over and over. Until it becomes like breathing. Easier written than accomplished.
Stopping the Obsessive Thinking Cycle will Include:
- the ability to love your enemy without judgment
- healthy boundaries in place
- no fear, perfect love casts out fear
- no vengeful or vindictive desires
- trusting God/Messiah completely
You will want to daily work on these by reminding yourself to concentrate on:
- acceptance with no judgment (remember we all sin)
- Let His love flow through you
- Trust God with EVERYTHING in regards to those that hurt you
- figure out and implement healthy boundaries
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10 thoughts on “How to Stop Obsessive Thinking After Betrayal”
What a wonderful article and wow great and powerful tips. We must give real though lot about the things we think about. Great words of wisdom.
Aww, thanks so much Shawnte, making this a habit is a work in progress for me still! But I’m coming. along!
Awesome! Thanks, Shawnte!Thinking about our thinking is life-changing!
Thanks, Shawnte! Thinking about our thinking is an empowering habit!
I love the way you broke this down! As a person who’s suffered from ruminating thoughts, this was super helpful!
I get it Alissa! I think it is the very definition of driving oneself crazy, right?
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