The skill of admitting when
your’e wrong is not easily acquired. Learn to take responsibility and gain confidence.
Why is it so hard?
You may think it is the most difficult thing to do.
Embarrassing. Frustrating. No fun at all.
However, like any good habit, once we choose it over and over and over again, we get to a point where the fear is gone and we just have a beneficial habit. Possibly even an automatized habit!
While it may feel insurmountably uncomfortable initially, given enough experience at the skill of admitting when you are wrong and you will wonder what the big deal was. After all, can you find anyone (outside of the Messiah) that hasn’t messed up, sinned, hurt someone or otherwise done something stupid?
Therefore, not only are you in a massive group, absolutely everyone in it knows the pain of being wrong. Well, maybe the most self-absorbed don’t. But the rest of us sure do.
Why is blame a more natural reaction than admitting when you are wrong?
For some of us, blaming others is a knee-jerk reaction. Why is it so much easier to point fingers?
When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdomProverbs 11:2
Better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly, Than to divide the spoil with the proud.Proverbs 16:19
Humility can be terrifying:
…none of us can be sure that the way we tell our own stories is the most truthful narrative. We may remain caught in traps of self-deception, and others may have a perspective on our lives that we lack.Embodying Forgiveness by L. Gregory Jones, p.172
Why Does Admitting When I am Wrong Matter?
When we admit that we are wrong, that we have actually made a mistake, we state out loud the problem that we have created and we take responsibility for it. Both of these things make it less likely that we will make that mistake next time. Articulating it helps us define what actually went wrong, and taking responsibility motivates us to do better next time.Sarah Winfrey, Change Your Life by Learning How to Admit You’re Wrong
Pride is the Enemy of Humility
So if pride is the enemy of humility and God hates pride (1 Peter 5:5) we need to take our pride pretty seriously, right?
We can start cleaning pride out of our minds and hearts but creating a habit of readily admitting when we are wrong.
Still not convinced its important to deal in humility when you are wrong? Check out Sam Storm’s post How Pride Poisons the Soul. He makes an excellent study that clearly shows envy, bitterness, strife, deceit, hypocrisy, slander, and greed all have their evil root in pride.
Pride poisons the soul. Humility is a balm. Humility is something we need to strive with all we have for. Check out how many, many amazing verses talk about the gravity and goodness of humility. Bible verses on Humility.
What about narcissists and their ilk? You will never find them admitting when they are wrong.
By definition admitting when they are wrong and taking responsibility is almost impossible for the narcissistic. Protect yourself and your loved ones the best you can. These sorts of personalities can be very charming, but in the end, leave their victims in pain.
Sometimes folks who have been rejected put up a wall to avoid being hurt any further. This is a sad, but understandable mistake. If you feel yourself doing that, fight past it.