Serving others with confidence and trust go hand in hand.
If you have had a difficult time trusting yourself, it may be a sign that you lack confidence and self-acceptance. It’s difficult to develop any trust without confidence. Feeling secure in your abilities and strong in your convictions is a good place to start.
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However, knowing when you are wrong is an aspect of self-confidence also. Being confident has nothing to do with being right, it is a level of self-acceptance that has moved past caring what others think. A level that embraces our own imperfections.
The above requires you to develop self-confidence. That may seem scary to you. However, it’s not as difficult as you think. No one is born with confidence. It is something people learn and develop during their lives. It’s the same for you. Take steps to develop your confidence and trusting yourself will become easy.
Fear is the biggest detractor of confidence. When you give in to your fears, you will diminish the chances of building up your confidence. That is something that can deepen if you don’t handle it quickly. You need to face your fears head-on.
That doesn’t mean you should throw caution to the wind and be reckless. Don’t make frivolous decisions, either. Confidence is about knowing the difference.
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Start out with small tasks that you have been afraid to try in the past. Most outcomes will turn out better than you imagine.
If you try to project what will happen, and it is always a negative outcome, you will find it hard to make any decisions.
Take on those small tasks without thinking too much about what’s going to happen. That will build up your confidence as you’ve never seen before.
“If you want to boost your self-esteem, stop thinking and start doing. The world needs you more than you can possibly realize.”Margaret Banning
You should ask questions when you aren’t sure about the situations you face. Confidence is not about having all the answers. It’s about knowing where to find them and who to rely on with the knowledge that you need. It’s also about pulling the trigger when you have gathered enough information.
Confidence is about taking responsibility for your decisions and your actions. If you believe in what you are doing, you can portray that belief to others affected by your decisions.
You will come across as being weak if you start blaming others when your situation doesn’t go as planned. Once this happens, others will lose faith in you.
That will cause your confidence to erode, and self-doubt will take over. When you make your decisions, you own them, even if they don’t work out.
When you increase your confidence, you will automatically increase trusting yourself.
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Then, you can accomplish more than you ever imagined.
If you have confidence, friendships come easier. In fact, confidence will attract people almost automatically. People are drawn to others who exude confidence. Think about the people you work with. Do you tend to naturally migrate towards confident people?
It’s important not to take your confidence too far where you are looked upon as being arrogant. This has the potential to turn people off more than win any friendships. Overconfident people are seen as unwavering and others tend to avoid these types. Overconfidence is actually insecurity disguised.
It’s not necessary either. The key is to be yourself without stepping on others. To accept yourself for who you are and others for who they are. Quirks, imperfections and all.
Believing in yourself is the first step towards gaining confidence. Everyone has some amount of self-doubt.
Serving Others with Confidence and Trust Builds Self-Acceptance
However, we need to get over the crippling self-doubt that leaves us frozen or uncomfortable.
Start by observing others who you feel are confident. What qualities do they possess? Do they talk about themselves or do you find them talking about others in a positive way? Are others drawn to them when they enter the room?
Sometimes, confidence comes from learning new skills. If you know what others don’t, people will often come to you when they learn you have those skills or knowledge. This builds confidence and trust.
But, don’t stop at just a cursory level of knowledge. Become an expert and you will have the confidence necessary to serve and help when people do approach you. It’s okay not to know everything at the beginning, don’t pretend like you do. But, as long as you continue on the path of learning more, it will serve you well.
Confidence also comes from knowing the strength of others and using it to help them as well as you. If you are part of a team, get to know what others are good at on your team. Then, when you come across those attributes in your job or ministry, you can rely on their expertise. They will appreciate being recognized for their abilities.
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Help others who are not good at something but show a willingness to learn. These people become allies, and they too will appreciate your efforts to help. They will become part of your network.
Friendship and networks will happen when you gain confidence in your life, service, and work. You may end up with more friends than you know what to do with. That is certainly a better problem to have than having no network.
Don’t be surprised if you get approached by unknown people saying that your friends have recommended you. When we approach life to serve others, our perception changes and so does others. Serving others with confidence and trust can help you reach a level of self-acceptance that gives you and them joy!
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